DISCLAIMER : the tittle has nothing to do with this post...i just always wanted to say that. well, not quite always, its just been burning me all day. the 1st part "am no superman" is from the theme song for scrubs by blane lazlo and the second part "but am pretty awesome" is from me...coz am pretty awesome heheheh.
moving on from my awesomeness, relationships are overrated. yes i said it they are extremely and so inappropriately overrated. friendship on the other hand is under-rated. this is sad really coz friendship if you ask me has a greater chance of existence and value compared to love-the relationship kinda atleast.
look at it from my eyes...when was the last time you broke up with your best friend? or better still i bet you don't have an uncle who divorced his childhood friend for a younger prettier one. get my point? friendship is just stronger. hell, you don't even get jealous when your good friends get other good friends.
do not get me wrong, i like relationships...they are good, companionship is great and the feeling of being loved and wanted is unmatched by any other. however, i do not believe reltionships overpowers friendship, the feeling of trust in someone and the knowledge that you have someone or people that can be trusted to be there without fail in your most difficult moments. self-infringed or not.
i believe a relationship as good as it is and as necessary as it is, one can do without. there should be no feeling of pressure to get into one. if anything they should come naturally as they so often do. in the words of one rapper..."loving you is a choice i go into not a decision i make"...i do not know how much sense that makes.
personally, i feel comfortable alone or single as i do when with someone. i feel everybody should be self contained. what i mean by this is, everybody should be comfortable enough in one's skin to be able to be alone and not feel like the world is ending. one's self worth should not be dictated by how much someone else loves you but rather by how much you love yourself. and if this is wrong then i do not want to be right.(not that i ever am really)
back to friendship, am not the best of people myself definitely not the most social. i have been told enough times to believe (whether its true or not) that i am in fact a snob, a tittle that i am forced to humbly and arrogantly take up. this is partly for the reason that i do not believe the guy with the most friends is necessarily the most well taken care of and loved. in the words of yet another rapper "i have few friends, am not in many crews"
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this is not by coincidence but by design. i believe that if i have fewer friends i'll be able to take care of them better. another reason is that i am not an easy person to get along with. i am big-headed, arrogant, over-opinionated, sometimes ignorant, painfully truthful and have an absurd sense of self-importance among other bad qualities that would fill this page if i was to get to them.
loving me is a dirty job...and no one has to do it (how's that for arrogance?) anyway, what i mean is, it is difficult to get along with me and just as any other difficult task...not many can do it. but being in my circle comes with its rewards. i am good to my friends and i stand to be challenged on this. i would give a finger, a hand, a foot...a life for my close friends. i would NEVER let my friends down if can help it.
unfortunately,i wouldn't say the same for my girlfriends or lovers. i make it no secret that i would give up any love for my friends.i have as a matter of fact done it on several occasions. this might not be wise...i know. and needless to say many have taken advantage of this but what can i do? maybe as i am often told by Dexter my self-proclaimed philosopher and grandfather of all knowledge (this is said with all the sarcasm that sarcast can offer) i will get wiser as i get older and maybe my take on this will change but for now, this stands.
this post is inspired by a friend i would have given anything for and who on another friends advice, decided that friendship alone is unreal and for the gutter and that if she was not going to get a relationship she would have nothing at all to do with me.
do not in a rush for gold...discard the more valuable platinum that you already have.
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